Instructor, handling family affairs is really a headache... "Last month, Lu Qisong, the squad leader of a certain brigade and battalion in the Southern Theater Command Army, returned from vacation and knocked on the door of instructor Yang Songbai with a worried face. Originally, due to long-term separation, he and his wife often argued over trivial matters during their daily phone conversations. This vacation, he brought home the fatigue and work pressure brought by the recent high-intensity training, but the long-awaited reunion time made the two of them very unhappy. Lu Qisong scratched his head, his tone full of helplessness and anxiety, "Although he cares about her very much in his heart, he easily 'deviates' and cannot control his emotions when he speaks up. Lu Qisong's troubles are not uncommon. How to effectively help officers and soldiers relieve their worries and create harmonious and stable family relationships has become a key concern of the party committee of the battalion. In the past, education on marriage and love was often a 'one pot' approach, with general content and weak targeting. ”Sheng Wei, the instructor of the battalion, reflected that "especially in distinguishing the personalized needs of officers and soldiers of different ages and different stages of marriage and love, the distinction is not precise enough. Military education on marriage and love must be like precise training, abandoning 'flood irrigation' and achieving 'precise drip irrigation'." To this end, the battalion divided officers and soldiers into groups such as' married ',' engaged ', and' passionate love ', and tailored differentiated education programs for each group. Focusing on the real pain points of married officers and soldiers, Yang Songbai shares his skills and insights on common issues such as poor communication between spouses, guiding everyone to express their needs correctly, learn to manage emotions, and put themselves in each other's shoes, encouraging officers and soldiers to exchange experiences and learn from each other's experiences. For officers and soldiers who are currently in the stage of "engagement" and "passionate love", the battalion organizes married officers and soldiers to speak from their own experiences and teach the correct way of getting along with couples. I used to think that military marriage was difficult, but now I understand that the key to happiness lies in 'managing with care'. ”Lu Qisong introduced that now his daily contact with his wife is no longer just about "talking about things", but actively sharing interesting life stories and caring about each other's well-being. During a recent video call, my wife mentioned that he has undergone significant changes and the atmosphere at home has noticeably improved. The worried expression on his face has been replaced by a relaxed smile. (New Society)